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I’m Alex, by the way. The treatment I recommend above, for delayed ejaculation, is the one that cured me. I’m just going to describe a few of the things I know about this problem…and, believe me, I leanred a lot when I finally decided enough was enough, and I wasn’t putting up with delayed ejaculation any longer (by the way, I now enjoy great sex).
One thing I know is that men with delayed ejaculation have a lot of characteristics in common….and while I know that not all men will recognize themselves in what I talk about below, you’ll probably find something here which makes you think “Hmmm…that might be me!” And the great thing about the treatment program is that it can help you with any or all of these challenges.
To start with, many men with delayed ejaculation have some difficulty with expressing how they feel (but then, don’t all men?!) and they often keep their emotions firmly under wraps. It might even be frightening to think of exploring your emotions, or it might be something you haven’t done much of in your life. But no matter how unattractive a prospect it may be to explore your feelings, it can be done in a safe and gentle way, a way that avoids conflict, and leads to much better sex with your partner, not to mention a much better relationship in general. All of these things are explored in this effective self-help treatment for delayed and retarded ejaculation (which, by the way, is written by a sex therapist with 12 years’ experience treating men with delayed ejaculation).
Other men with delayed ejaculation have slightly ambivalent feelings about sex because of things that happened in their past. This may or may not have been outright abuse; it may have been some slightly negative sexual experience, perhaps in childhood, perhaps later, which has affected their ability to fully enjoy sex and get “into the moment” with their partner (sounds like a trust issue….and it often is).
If this might be true for you, then, yes, it might be important to examine the links between your past life experiences and the sexual issues which you face today. Even if you can’t see much of a connection between the past and present as far as your sex life is concerned, sometimes past experiences will be having a major effect on your ability to complete lovemaking. You can explore these issues in a powerful yet safe way, and we’ll discuss this in the treatment program. You will probably be able to see at a glance what treatment strategy is best for you.
Some men with delayed ejaculation have somehow missed out on “normal” sexual experiences as they were growing up, or maybe the experiences they did have were just disappointing. The way to deal with this kind of thing is to learn a range of simple sexual techniques — tips and tricks which are easy to use and will vastly increase your enjoyment of sex and your partner’s enjoyment of sex.
You might be getting the idea by now that delayed ejaculation is a sexual challenge that’s often produced by a combination of several factors. The end result, though, is that you “hold back” your ejaculation during sex, for one reason or another.
Some men can’t ejaculate during intercourse because when they were teenagers they masturbated with such pressure and force on their penis that they “conditioned” their body only to ejaculate in response to extreme levels of stimulation. During intercourse you don’t get anything like this level of pressure on your penis, hence there’s no ejaculation and intercourse goes on for ages and ages…..
Fortunately, training yourself to ejaculate with less pressure and normal levels of stimulation isn’t difficult, although it may take a little while, and require a certain amount of patience.
There’s yet another aspect to delayed ejaculation: you always have to look at the thoughts, fantasies and feelings that go on in a man’s mind when he’s thinking about sex, having sex, and when he’s with a partner making love.
What seems to happen for a lot of men with delayed ejaculation is that in some way they’re “stuck” in their fantasies, and they just don’t make the transition to interacting fully with their partner during lovemaking. It’s almost as though their fantasies are a more important source of sexual stimulation than the reality of their partner. In the treatment, there are several techniques that enable a man to focus fully on his partner AND feel safe and be able to enjoy sex. These are a vital part of the treatment, because only when you feel safe will you be able to “let go” fully – whatever that means for you……
Very often, I men with delayed ejaculation are not particularly sexually aroused — even though they may have a very hard and long-lasting erection. As you know, it’s necessary to reach a high enough level of sexual arousal to be able to ejaculate, so it follows that a man who has trouble getting aroused will find ejaculation difficult and sexual satisfaction elusive.
I don’t really want to go into why men have trouble getting sexually aroused right now – even though they may think they are aroused – suffice it to say that to get over this hurdle, you need to fully engage with your partner, emotionally, physically, sexually….and learning how to do that and still feel safe so you can receive adequate sexual stimulation and become fully sexually aroused is extremely easy!
Enjoying better sex is all about filling in the gaps in your experience, discovering the things you don’t know about sex with a partner, and using the techniques that are necessary to become more aroused and speed up your ejaculation. And, if you’re simply not getting enough sexual stimulation to make you feel sexually aroused, you can use my program to quickly increase your sexual sensitivity and responsiveness: that will quickly increase the level of sensuality in your sexual relationship and help you ejaculate much more easily.
Some “experts” have suggested that men with delayed ejaculation might be angry or hostile towards their partner (or perhaps towards women in general), and seem to think that delayed ejaculation, the withholding of semen, is some kind of passive aggressive behavior. I have a problem with this idea because I think it’s actually quite demeaning to men who really want to solve their sexual problems and engage in full, open-hearted sexual activity with their partner. (It seems especially disrespectful to those who want to have a baby with their partner.) The vast majority of men men want a better sexual relationship with great sex. That’s what I aim to give them!
What you have to remember, I think, is that delayed ejaculation treatment is basically about helping a couple to connect more fully, enjoy a better sex life, respect and relish each other’s bodies, and get the right level of sexual pleasure for them. At the same time, you need to respect each other’s boundaries and limits. We don’t all want a rampant sex life, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s perfectly acceptable to set limits on what you want to enjoy and to make it clear to your partner what you want to do in bed.
Hopefully all of this will become a lot clearer when you have the chance to look at the treatment program, where you can pick and choose the information that is most relevant to you, the stuff that will give you the greatest chance of achieving a happy and fulfilling sex life, whatever that means to you.
All the best,
Alex M.