It’s important to understand that one of the reasons delayed ejaculation is regarded as difficult to treat by many so-called “experts” is that it comes in many forms and for many reasons.
Classically it’s regarded as a product of emotional conflicts such as fear, anger, hostility, or detachment, in particular detachment from a sexual partner or from one’s own inner world of sexuality.
However, it’s equally possible for delayed ejaculation to be the product of idiosyncratic masturbation techniques, such as thrusting hard and fast against the mattress in a prone position.
Since there are so many causes of delayed ejaculation, it can take time and effort to tease out, in any individual case, what’s actually lying behind it, which probably accounts for the supposed difficulty in treating it.
However, there are many different techniques available for the treatment of delayed ejaculation, and provided that they are worked through in a systematic manner, I don’t actually think it’s a difficult problem to solve.
The difficulty arises more from the fact that many men who are in a relationship that is, shall we say “challenged”, are more likely to be resistant to exploring their relationship and treating their delayed ejaculation.
In other words, curing the delayed ejaculation becomes more challenging because a man isn’t willing to look at the relationship issues which actually maybe underlying it.
If it’s a simple case of idiosyncratic masturbation, it’s obviously a lot easier to deal with difficulties in ejaculation by applying suitable re-sensitization techniques and showing the man how to masturbate in a different way, and teaching his body to become more sensitive to sexual stimulation.
So the message here really is the treatment needs to be carefully adapted to every individual case, and there is no universal panacea which will solve the problem. Having said that, is certainly a truism than delayed ejaculation treatment that with the clear intention on the part of man and his partner to solve the problem, and the willingness to examine the issues that might be lying behind it, the problem can be solved in almost every case.
I firmly believe that the natural instinct of men to engage in sexual intercourse, with the end result being natural ejaculation, is the fuel that fires any recovery from inhibition of ejaculation.
One of the best ways to deal with delayed ejaculation is get the help of a sex therapist or counselor who is experienced in this field, But the truth of the matter is that many men are embarrassed about the fact they can’t ejaculate during intercourse.
That’s hardly surprising, since we regard this is the natural way of making love, and any variation can be seen as quite peculiar. So the next best option is to use a home treatment program, such as the one that is available on this website.
To close this short piece I’d just like to remind you of some of the options that are available for dealing with delayed ejaculation: these include changing your lovemaking techniques and sexual techniques to produce orgasm to those most likely to make you ejaculate, learning how to make a woman come so that you both get pleasure from intercourse or sexual interaction, adding orgasm triggers such as prostate and nipple stimulation, and spending time on sensate focus to build intimacy.