Delayed orgasm and slow ejaculation is often due to low sexual arousal, even when the man has a hard erection. One of the cures for this of course is to raise his level of sexual arousal by using different types of stimulation.
One of this slightly more controversial or unusual stimulation techniques that may be used for this purpose is prostate stimulation. It’s regrettable that a lot of men think that any kind of anal stimulation is an indication of latent homosexuality.
The reality, of course, is that any trigger which can increase man’s level of sexual arousal is potentially an excellent way of encouraging him to ejaculate normally during intercourse. If we accept the thesis, as indeed plenty of evidence suggests we must, that delayed ejaculation (click here for more information) is the result of low sexual arousal, even in the presence of an erection, then clearly anything that a man can do to increase his subjective level of sexual arousal is going to help him ejaculate.
Men have reported to me that they have found nipple stimulation, testicle stimulation, anal stimulation, stimulation of the perineum, and in particular stimulation of the prostate gland, Highly effective in increasing their level of arousal to point at which normal intercourse could trigger ejaculation.
One of the benefits of a program of establishing trigger points for ejaculation is that it can offer the opportunity Of encouraging intimacy in foreplay with your partner.
This feeds into the fact that in many relationships were delayed ejaculation is a factor, there is a low level of open and honest communication between the partners, and Probably even less discussion about sexual activity than other issues of mutual concern.
So exercises that involve the exploration of orgasm triggers can serve two functions: first, they can literally help the man to ejaculate by increasing his arousal, and secondly, they can establish greater intimacy between sexual partners because they involve a shared activity which is both emotionally and physically intimate, and which leads to a more relaxed and open attitude towards sexual interaction between them.
Now, I know that not all men with delayed ejaculation will be interested in exploring prostate stimulation, but for those who have an open mind, I highly recommend it as route to exploring ways in which it may be possible to reach orgasm and ejaculate more easily.
Those men who have tried it, always report to me that they have found it to be both a pleasurable experience, and an easier and quicker route to achieve ejaculation.
I think, faced with the prospect of several months of in-depth psychotherapy or a quick fix using a physical trigger such as this, most men will be clear that the more desirable option is to get active in intimate exploration of their bodies with their partners, and in doing so save themselves a great deal of time and potentially a great deal of anxiety about their non-ejaculation.
Men who are finding it difficult to ejaculate during intercourse, whether that is a husband who can’t ejaculate during intercourse, or a boyfriend who can’t ejaculate during sex, it can be a very rewarding and intimate experience to engage one’s partner in a search for “trigger points”.