Causes Of Delayed Ejaculation

A rather crucial point that requires much emphasis is that sexual orgasm or the feeling of reaching a climax during masturbation or sexual intercourse is a mental event or episode – it all happens mentally, exclusively in the mind, and this is true even though the perceived physical pleasure lies in the body.

When men and their sexual partners try to focus on the topic of anorgamsia or retarded or delayed ejaculation, the tendency is usually to think of these two different occurrences as being the same. Contrary to popular opinions and widespread notions, orgasm and ejaculation are two entirely different and distinct events!

Delayed ejaculation requires higher levels of sexual arousal

Foreplay can help a man with delayed ejaculation to reach orgasm.

Ejaculation, however, is a bodily reflex response that is induced by persistent and repeated pleasurable physical pressure and stimulation to the penis and various other pleasure points such as the perineum, nipples and the base of the scrotum.

Scientific researchers have not yet identified where sexual orgasm is located as a neural event within the brain, but there have been breakthroughs concerning synaptic pathways by which the physical function of ejaculation is mediated.

There are competing and even contradictory viewpoints but one conclusion is that when sensual or sexual arousal reaches a certain level of intensity, the flow of semen into the farthest point of the male urethra concentrates and increases the fluid pressure at the root of the penis.

This in turn sets in motion a number of reflex reactions which includes movement of the pubococcygeal muscle in a series of rhythmic pulsations – ejaculation is evidently controlled by the involuntary nervous system, while sexual arousal is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system.

As it is, medical researchers see delayed ejaculation as a real problem, and the evolution of the terminology represents the scientific community’s increasingly enlightened attitude to this syndrome ejaculatory incompetence, inhibited ejaculation, ejaculatory over-control, retarded ejaculation, and finally delayed ejaculation.

This nomenclature is illustrative of a slowly increasing level of respect for the men who are having problems in relationship or sexual dysfunction issues with their partners during sexual intercourse.

What is puzzling to researchers is that many sufferers are able to ejaculate during their own masturbation. This has given rise to the belief that relationship issues are associated with failure to achieve orgasm and ejaculate during partnered sex. However, a healthy dose of skepticism in looking at such ideas is needed.

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There’s strong reason to suggest that a man’s failure to ejaculate even getting fellatio, during or when penetrating a partner, or through stimulation by a partner’s hand merely represents the fact that there’s the higher degree of stimulation during self-pleasuring is much more intense.

A man may have learned to apply powerful self-stimulation to his penis while self-pleasuring.

It’s obvious that the human body can be trained to get used to some extraordinary levels of sexual stimulation, so it’s always wise to find out whether or not the problems with delayed ejaculation originate in the fact that the man on his own, using masturbation, can apply hard, firm, or high-frequency stroking, in a way that is not replicable during intercourse with another person.

There’s ample basis to assume that if this really is the cause of delayed ejaculation, the remedy clearly lies in reconditioning the body, the penis and the brain, so that they can respond to softer pleasuring of the kind that stimulates orgasm in intercourse.

In many instances, sexual therapists, counsellors and psychotherapists often adopt the attitude, the philosophical position, even, that the dynamics between the partners is to be seen as the primary cause of the condition.

To be fair, there is pretty good evidence and a basis for this rational line of thinking. In my years of therapy, and working as a therapist, I’ve come across a lot of sexually active couples who have become increasingly aggressive and hostile to each other and have neglected to maintain any degree of intimacy to the point where a the man in the relationship no longer enjoys intercourse, and secretly or not so secretly disdains the routine, while always simultaneously finding himself completely powerless to convey to his partner any meaningful dialogue and start a rational discussion to find a mutually acceptable answer or solution to these pernicious difficulties.

And even if there isn’t resentment, antagonism, or any other emotion on the part of the man towards the woman, there is, as some studies show, a specific type of individual which is prone to delayed ejaculation.

As often cited in scientific literature, this personality profile is quite likely a person who is somehow disconnected to his personal preferences to induce sexual arousal, who is often unaware of how aroused he is while doing sexual activities and intercourse, who looks at sex as a sort-of duty for which he is completely responsible, who sees his sexual partner’s pleasure and gratification during sexual intercourse as his own, exclusively male, responsibility, and who is totally convinced that the woman’s pleasure must rightly come first and is the the most important result of sexual interaction.

These personalities – mostly male – generally, whether expressed or not, see themselves as the “mighty powerful provider of sex”, thrusting rhythmically (often against all the odds) to steer sex to a successful conclusion.

An interesting factor in this arrangement is that the majority of the partners of men in this situation are often somewhat passive when it comes to sex, and have a tacit understanding that it’s the male who is obligated to bring them sexual pleasure.

In fact, they are without a doubt responsible for their personal pleasure. In such cases, it’s clearly imperative to help and provide instructions to the sex partners and make available some useful sexual information. Coached in such a way, the couple’s expectations and attitudes about sex and sexual gratification can be steered closer to reality.

Finally, it has been observed that men who have this kind of personality profile generally lack awareness of their own level of arousal.

In a very real sense, there appears to be a certain gap, or a blank space, in the sexual experience, so that they have rendered dependent their internal process of sexual pleasure with the external dynamics of having sexual intercourse with a spouse or partner.

What can be deduced from all these is that their internal sexual model doesn’t serve as a divider of sexual stimulus and gratification: they are left in a frustrating state of arousal, of sexual confusion, and this means they are attempting to have sexual contact with another person without any of the essential tools that are necessary for the sex act to be a pleasurable and mutually satisfying experience.

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    I find your focus on delayed ejaculation interesting – as a man who suffers from a delayed ejaculation (say twenty minutes before i reach orgasm) I would be interested in contacting you. Can you click here to see what I have to say on my own website about the matter, and then contact me for guidance on how I might overcome delayed ejaculation please.

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