Are you a man who finds it difficult or even impossible to reach the point of orgasm and ejaculation during sex? If so, you probably have delayed ejaculation (also known as retarded ejaculation). I know all about this, because up until 4 years ago, pretty much every time I had sex I was unable to ejaculate. I cured myself with the help of a treatment program designed by an experienced sex therapist, which I want to share with you on this blog.

If you don’t want to read any more from me, and you’d like to check out this excellent treatment program, just click here.

Delayed ejaculation is a common problem – certainly much more common than people believe. Some therapists suggest that about one man in 12 experiences the symptoms of delayed ejaculation to some degree.

When you think about it, this amounts to millions of men in America alone, and hundreds of millions throughout the world. Why then is delayed ejaculation so little talked about, and so little known? It’s probably because it seems like a very embarrassing problem – we can all understand men who get frustrated because they ejaculate too quickly during sex, but for a man to be unable to ejaculate when he’s making love to his partner can be very hard to understand.

In the not-so-recent past, the term retarded ejaculation was used by doctors to describe difficulty in ejaculating. The term was replaced by the expression “delayed ejaculation”. But whether you call it retarded ejaculation or delayed ejaculation makes no difference: for those men who have difficulty achieving the ultimate pleasure of sex, delayed ejaculation is, not put too fine a point on it, a pain in the ass!

If you’d like to hear more about the treatment program, click here for full details. It’s by a guy named Rod Phillips, who’s treated me and many others over the years for delayed ejaculation. So let me tell you about his online program.

It consists of an action-packed 50 page eBook, and a whole load of supplementary information about sex techniques. The eBook itself is full of information about how delayed ejaculation can develop. There are many ways this can happen (I think I agree with Rod that my difficulties were caused by being over-reliant on fantasies to get sexually aroused), and he explains them all…..which is interesting, and takes up half the eBook, but you might want to jump straight to the treatment methods, which are explained in great detail in the second half of the publication.

What’s in there? All kinds of good stuff, including relaxation exercises, intimacy exercises to bring you emotionally closer to your partner; stroking, fondling and carressing exercises that will allow you to experience much higher levels of arousal in your body; all kinds of techniques and strategies to make sexual arousal more exciting so you can ejaculate more easily; and a complete program to allow you to improve the quality of your sex life once you are able to ejaculate.

My favourite was the genital massage exercise, which my partner and I found incredibly exciting, and very quickly allowed me to ejaculate during intercourse. I loved it and you probably will love it too!

As you can tell I’m a great fan of this program – and so I should be, because it cured my delayed ejaculation and gave me a normal sex life after 19 years of my adult life without satisfactory sex. So the reason I’m recommending it is because I want everyone who has this problem to get the same benefits that I did. And that’s all very well, but you might be asking if there are any downsides to this radical treatment program. Well, it’s not presented in a very sophisticated way, if that matters, although I often think that the flashier eBooks on the market are the ones that are trying to disguise a lack of content – and you certainly can’t accuse Rod Phillips of a lack of content! (Check it out here.)

He might also be accused of being a little bit wordy, and perhaps overwriting the introduction to the treatment method. Does that detract from it? Not really, in my opinion, but it depends how interested you are in the background to delayed ejaculation. I’d suggest if you find him going on at too great a length, you just skip this section and go straight to the treatment program, which is described in clear, simple text, and makes it very obvious what you have to do to cure your delayed ejaculation.

Any other points? Yes, as a matter of fact, there are two – first of all, he’s available by email to give you support at any point while you use the program, and second, he offers a money back guarantee so the whole thing’s completely risk-free for you. Can’t say fairer than that!

Stay well,

Alex M.

More thoughts on what causes delayed ejaculation…..

When you think about the role men play in sex, it’s clear there’s a lot of pressure on us. Generally, we’re expected to lead, to seduce, to romance, to make the first move, and to be expert in bed so that a woman gains pleasure and reaches orgasm through our efforts. If she doesn’t come, it’s probably because we haven’t given her enough foreplay. If we don’t understand what she wants, it’s our fault. And so on. This isn’t a criticism of women, it’s more a reflection of the fact that the values we have around sex put a lot of pressure on men, somewhat unfairly.

And for a man who’s driven by perfectionism or a desire to please his partner, the pressure that sex produces can cause a huge amount of resentment. And if a man’s resentful during sex he’s not thinking about being in the moment and enjoying himself – he’s distanced from his partner in some way. That certainly seems to be one cause of delayed ejaculation: the pressure of having to please your partner, or at least feeling that you have to please your partner, and resenting that fact.

It’s also true that many men who experience some degree of delayed ejaculation, also known as ”retarded ejaculation”, are experiencing some kind of relationship issues with their partner. There may be some hostility, or resentment, or anger, or even sexual guilt or shame, within the relationship between the partners. When a man can’t ejaculate during intercourse, he might be symbolically withholding himself both psychologically and physically from his partner. His lack of ejaculation is a sign of his lack of intimate involvement with his partner.

And delayed ejaculation can also be caused by prescription drugs. Almost anything prescribed for anxiety or depression has the capacity to cause delayed ejaculation. So it’s always worth looking for the obvious things before going to the psychological explanations: physical illness, recent operations, infections of the urinary tract, and so on. But if you can’t pin the blame for your delayed ejaculation on any of these, then you’re probably going to need the treatment program which helped me. 

Delayed ejaculation isn’t just a problem for the man. The fact that he’s experiencing some degree of difficulty with his ejaculation, or the fact he can’t ejaculate at all, means that some sexual problem is affecting his ejaculatory response. But this also affects his partner, who may think she’s not attractive enough or sexy enough or good enough in bed, and that’s the cause of the man’s retarded ejaculation. That’s why communication is so important.

As delayed ejaculation impacts on both the man and his partner, it can cause even more friction in the relationship, which makes a couple even less likely to have successful sex – you can see how once the problem has started it may turn into a downward spiral of mutual recrimination and blame.

To get out of this spiral, check out the treatment program for delayed ejaculation which helped me.

Hi there. My name is Alex, and the purpose of this blog is to share with you the treatment program that cured my delayed ejaculation. If you’d like to look at the treatment program right now without reading any more of my musings, simply click on the link to learn about delayed ejaculation and how you can cure it.

I was pretty much ashamed of my sexual performance when I had delayed ejaculation, and I guess that shame, and maybe embarrassment, was one of the main reasons why I didn’t seek help. In fact, most men don’t get help for delayed ejaculation. And that’s a pity, because it can be cured quite easily.

I think a lot of women expect men to be - at the very least - good in bed, if not actually superb, and I certainly was nothing of the kind…..even though sex lasted for ages, I never heard much praise from my partners…just moans about how sore, or bored (or both) they were because of my inability to ejaculate during sex!

So what causes delayed ejaculation? Oddly enough, low sexual arousal is a major factor. Men who can’t ejaculate often have a rather low level of sexual arousal and an extremely hard and prolonged erection. That combination certainly seems surprising, but you may know from your own experience the having an erection doesn’t necessarily mean you’re aroused.

It’s possible that men with delayed ejaculation actually interpret their erection as a sign of arousal and think they should be able to reach orgasm fairly easily. But, if you’re not turned on, and particularly if you don’t want to be having sex with the person you’re in bed with, you aren’t likely to be able to come very easily.

Another cause of delayed ejaculation is that a man simply needs more stimulation to reach orgasm than he actually gets during intercourse. Maybe he’s conditioned himself only to ejaculate after hard and prolonged stimulation of his penis, perhaps through a habit of masturbating with very vigorous and harsh stimulation. Intercourse doesn’t even come close…and as for oral sex…well, that gives nowhere near enough stimulation.

See you can see that delayed ejaculation isn’t a simple condition to explain. But in a way its origin isn’t particularly important when you’re looking for a cure. You might be wondering: ”Is it possible to cure delayed ejaculation?” Happily, the answer is “Yes, definitely.”

There are various techniques to cure delayed ejaculation, including retraining the body to respond to more gentle stimulation during sex, bodywork and other exercises which allow a man to become much more aroused before he begins to have sex intercourse, and sorting out some of the issues which exist between a man and his partner.

The treatment program which helped me cure my delayed ejaculation offers all of these, and much more, and you can use it at home in privacy. It’s a pretty powerful and effective treatment program for delayed ejaculation.